How do people cope when they are given the news that cancer has spread? that the treatment isn't working? Is it possible to carry on? to cope? to be the same person you were before cancer?
Once again another bad day. I woke up with a dreadful headache. Was violently sick so am ashamed to say I pushed Chris out of the front door and told him to go to my neighbours and ask to be taken to school. I climbed back into bed and slept till gone 12.Gordon came home early -his work are being good to him at the moment. He collected Chris from school for me. Headache has lasted all day and have also had several crying sessions.
On a positive note we went to the school today for Christophers parents evening. All his teachers have said how well he is doing despite how bad home life is at the moment. His reading age is well above his normal age and he is doing well in all his other subjects. Am very proud of him for doing so well when home is so unsettled -I guess I should follow his example
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I dont know how people cope either Jools, I dont think you can be the same person as before it happened, but it might make you stronger and I guess it also gives one a different outlook on life. I think one copes in the end because one has to. I always think people who have to go through this are so very brave. You must be so proud of your son. Try to be positive and remember we are all rooting for you. Take care, Trish from DOL
Julie...I'm so sorry!
I lost my mother to cancer last year and my brother is battling cancer right now. My mom was SO afraid to die. She went thru so much pain...the crying spells...the depression...the anger...the sadness. She asked God to show her what heaven was like and He did....and it was beautiful and she was no longer afraid. Oh...she didn't want to go...but she was no longer afraid to go. Julie, I don't know how you feel and I'm sure that trying to cope is close to impossible for you right now. What I do know is that our Heavenly Father loves you so much....and He is with you always. Is there a cancer support group that you can attend? I will be praying that God comforts your heart and gives you the strength to care for your son.
Sending love and hugs to you!
Robin in St. Louis
"Draw near to God and He will draw near to you" James 4:8
Jools, I don't know how they do either and maybe they don't - they put on a brave face. When my OH had cancer he had the treatment for the sake of me and our son, but he didn't really want it. In the end he died peacefully in a hospice, accepting it. I think that is what happens - acceptance, but before that the emotions have to be gone through. It is early days for you, let yourself go through all these things. Am so glad your son is doing well, that will be a big comfort for you.
Love and hugs
Merrie xxx
Sweet Julie... My friend Robin asked me to visit your blog and leave you words of encouragement... As I have been reading your story my heart aches for you. I cannot imagine the battle you are waging... I am certain the most difficult part is worrying for your precious son. So, the only true source of encouragement I can offer is our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ... He is our hope, our strength, our comfort, our courage, our refuge.... run into His loving arms and there you will find the peace that surpasses all understanding.... When I am afraid I often find comfort in the words and promises of Psalm 91.
I do know His ways are not our ways.... I know He has a plan for you and for your family.... for your beloved child. I am so sorry you are going through this but what a woman of courage and strength you are.... turn to Him and allow God to be your strength, you don't have to carry the burden alone... Jesus loves you more than you will ever know... He loves you so much that He died for you.... I pray the cancer does not take your life... But, the Good News is that when you have received Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior... when you have asked Him into your heart... the cancer will never win the battle! For Christ is already victorious! When it is time for Him to call you home, you will receive eternal life through Jesus and nothing, not even cancer can hurt you anymore... I pray you know Him and love Him... oh, how He loves you...
I will pray for you... I hope you have a day filled with joy, laughter and love...
God's healing and peace,
Daleea
Hi Jools! Just stopping by and hoping you felt better today!
Hugs from St. Louis!
Robin
Some people do cope and some don't Jools. I have to say that in my opinion YOU ARE coping. This is the most heartbreaking situation to be in, but you have friends and family who love you and you've got something to carry on fighting for.
I wish there was something we could do for you, some way of easing the pain for you, Gordon and Chris.
I'm so pleased that Chris is doing so well at school, that must make you both so proud and gives you something good to concentrate on.
Be strong Jools and keep battling away.
Saffy
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Jools, I don't know how I would cope in your shoes, I have tried to put myself there but just can't. I think you are amazing and you are coping, all the emotions you are feeling are normal, I have just recently lost a very dear friend to cancer and know that he went through all these feelings, the thing that helped him was to know that he had done as much as he could to make sure his leaving was not going to leave his family with loads of things to have to cope with. He organised things in his last weeks and then relaxed and enjoyed his family for the time he had left. I know you have been a fighter for so long but keep the fight going and try and smile each day, hug your wonderful family, tell all those important to you that you love them and then enjoy the time with everyone. Do what YOU want to do and try not to let it bring you down. Keep strong and keep loving. My thoughts, love and hugs are coming to you.
Lesley (Impi) DOL
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